How I connect

I find how human beings connect a fascinating thing – most of us are people watchers, I know I am. But how do myofascial therapists like Jane and Myself connect with you, the client? I’d love to share with you how I connect.For me, massage is about transformation. You come to me seeking change, and I meet you with an open mind and heart and a curiosity about how I can help this be achieved.I very much believe that your body holds its truth and that my role is to help it be heard. There are stories entwined between where your pain sits and where it starts – often they’re very different places.Therapists in my experience use their senses differently. I have spent years honing the alternative, expanded  ability of my senses. I see you through my finger tips, I hear you with my eyes, I feel you through my ears.Anyone who has ever worked with me will notice that I ask a lot of questions, at times they can seem a little odd: why would I be interested in how much dental work you’ve had, or which leg you broke as a teenager, or on which hip you carry your child?Questions, questions….These questions help me to  get a feel for where you stand in the world. Both physically and metaphorically. When I hear your answers, I get to know a little more about how you feel about your body: if you’re hopeful of change; whether you feel stressed or sad, or frustrated or determined. I choose not to make assumptions or judgements, my job is to hold space for you so you can be seen and heard and have your life’s experiences respected. Then we can bring our efforts together to create sustained change in your body.Jokingly, I used to refer to myself as a crap Columbo, like a 70’s detective with maverick tendencies and oddball questions, riffling through the myriad possibilities, endeavouring to hone in on what’s really going on. You may have noticed that I’m interested in your scars, your posture, the differences in  how you are when you’re stood up and laid down (good old gravity!) all of this information helps me to do better body work.Sometimes a client will see me manoeuvring my body to get a sense of how your body feels. I ask myself “where is the glitch?”, “If this muscle is switched ‘off’, what has to work harder?”And all this, dear reader, is my process of connection before I put hands on.With hands on comes assessment. I’m curious about the length of your legs, the tightness of the muscles, the stickiness of the fascia, how gnarled up you feel through the front of your pelvis – and that’s just the start.  I connect into the tissue of your body, the very fabric of your being with the gentlest of pressure. I learnt many years ago that stealth trumps force when it comes to long lasting effects. You don’t come to be because you want to feel better for the walk back to your car do you? You come to me because things are intolerable, and life needs to be better and that starts with your body feeling better.And I do use terms like We and Us – because this is transformation by team work, there is an element of trust that gets built up that is so important to getting you pain free.  When trust and knowing exists it becomes so much easier for You to guide me and me to guide you. That’s why connection is important before the work even begins.I truly believe that this is the way it is for the therapists at Thrive Clinic & Studio and it’s one of the reasons why Myofascial Release is such an amazing, effective and different way of reducing pain and discomfort. If this appeals to you, and you’d like to have a chat with Jane or Myself, please get in contact at hello@thrivesheffield.co.uk.Photo credit: Joseph Barrientos @jbcreate

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Scars and the feelings we feel. 

By Jane Midgley. 

I’ve been helping people with their scars a few years now so, when Carrie asked me to write a blog post about the effects of scarring I thought it was going to be easy. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Scarring affects us on so many levels; how they look, how they feel to the touch, how they make us feel and the thing is quite often we don’t even realise this. It wasn’t until I started writing about scars that I realised how much I was still affected by mine.

 

As you would imagine we all have scars. The physical ones we accrue through the rough and tumble of life. The medical ones through necessity and intervention. The emotional ones through grief, loss, heartbreak and love. You’ve heard the phrase ‘scarred for life’? They don’t call it scarred for nothing. Scars affect the whole person: mind, body, spirit, the whole shebang. And quite often the effects are deep, long lasting and down right dark and nasty.

 

So, I sat in front of my computer and tried to write my post – nothing came. No words, nada, null, nothing. I couldn’t quite grasp this as being as ex copy writer and marketer words are generally not something I’m lost for. But I couldn’t write anything. There was a feeling. A deep feeling and a voice that whispered, “you don’t want to go there’. I felt uneasy, anxious and probably a bit afraid. Too right I didn’t want to go there. So I scribbled a few words and emailed it knowing my words lacked depth and truth. Quite rightly it was sent back, I expected a ‘must try harder’ but Carrie is far too nice for that. She did say write from heart though and I knew she was right. I needed to write from my heart; my own experience. Not a faux, ‘I understand your pain’ kind of way but a ‘I get it – I really get it’.

 

Yeah, I have scars. A long silver slither of a childhood dog bite scar that I occasionally say, ‘Oh I was bitten by our dog when I was a child look!” (this one I kind of see as a badge of honour). Then there’s the short stubby white scar on my leg (the mark of shame) that’s almost faded now but was the source of much embarrassment. I’d fallen whilst ice skating as a teenager and was taken to hospital (subsequent broken leg), but the Dr comment on this large gash on my leg. Did you do this today? Humbled, embarrassed and wanting the world to eat me up, my 16 year old self had to admit to accidentally slashing my leg whilst shaving my legs in the bath. The Dr gave a knowing “ummm’ and I turned beetroot. I have scars from 2 broken legs actually, few chicken pox scars and a scar on my forehead when someone threw a large stone at me. But the ones that really get me every time, the biggies, the ‘don’t touch me or look at me’ are my cesarian scar and my internal Endometriosis scarring.

 

In all honesty my cesarian scar is not as bad as it could be. It’s a very small tidy white line, in fact so small I can hardly imagine how they managed they to get a baby out of it. But I know it’s there and my body knows it’s still there too. 10 years down the line I still suffer with back pains, hip and pelvic pain which, in combo with my Endometriosis can be miserable (actually debilitating, tiring and massively painful). I have had MFR sessions for both my C-section and Endo and in all honesty it does help my pain, movement and mood – massively – but in the case of Endo that never really goes away so I know MFR is something that I will forever use as maintenance rather than cure.

 

The scars that trouble me the most though are my laparoscopy scars. This is where they make 3 holes – 2 in your abdomen and 1 in your belly button and insert surgical instruments to look (in my case into my pelvis) and cut out the Endometrial growth. Of course cutting away leads to scar tissue which is on top of the scar tissue that the Endometrial growths cause. Double whammy. Despite being small this is the scar that has a hold on me. I cannot bare anyone to see it, touch it, ask about it. The thought of a finger touching it makes me feel physically sick and as for wearing anything that could possibly show off my belly button scar……… I’d rather wear a sack. Sadly my belly button makes me feel nauseous, angry and emotional. I am now just about brave enough to put my finger into and allow my tissues to soften, triggering self MFR. Interestingly when I do this, I notice pain in my hip, my back and under my ribs. If you’ve read the scar tissue page you’ll get why.

 

(There is a post script here though, when I was training in scar tissue release the first scar we released was to my horror the ‘belly button’. I wanted to escape but knew I couldn’t so I gritted my teeth and let my very tender and gentle fellow student practice on me. And it wasn’t too bad. It didn’t hurt although I was very aware of where I could feel releasing (hips, ribs, c-section). Yes, it did my me cry, but more from a letting go of the emotions connected to the scar than anything else. And afterwards I did feel so much better. I was lighter, my pain was less severe and I felt less anxious. Today my belly button scar is much less traumatic, I’m maybe not ready for a cropped top but I don’t think I ever was. My previous paragraph relates to how it did make me feel.)

 

So today when I work with people, initially often due to chronic pain. I do understand. I understand that you don’t like bits about yourself. That you may feel insecure, anxious and angry. I do get that restriction and pain means that you miss out on doing the things you used to love. That sometimes bending over to pull up a sock is a massive strain. That sometimes the pain and the emotion is dark and you feel lonely and ‘why me’. I get it.

 

But I also know that in my experience and working with my clients that MFR can make a big difference. I have worked with people whose pain meds have been reduced by half after 2 session, people who have been in pain for 20+ years and unable to bend forward after 3 sessions could move with ease. People who could not imagine what it would be like not to be in pain smiling because they feel great. I’m not arrogant enough to say that MFR is miracle cure but I can happily and honestly say that being brave enough to try MFR might be the best decision you could ever make.

To chat to Jane about what scar release work could mean for you please get in contact at Hello (at) thrivesheffield.co.uk
Pic credit Jordon Bauer

 

Oh snow!


Oh Snow! Due to the forecast of imminent and crazy amounts of snow, the Geode sale tomorrow is cancelled. But we’ll let you know when it’s rescheduled so you can get your twinkle fix! 

The Crystal Cave

Well hello!

It’s been a while hasn’t it!?!

So, some of you may have noticed that we’ve been busy bees at Thrive. Like Swallows we have migrated to warmer climes (although in our case not just for the winter) to our new snuggly treatment rooms downstairs and they’re pretty dandy. 

One of my favourite things about the treatment room I now inhabit is the geode shelf: Forty four sparkling, twinkling beauties. The geodes were a happy and serendipitous arrival, I happened to mention to a friend that I was looking for twinklies and here husband just happened to have a flock of them waiting to be rehomed.


Now, whilst a lot of those crystals did end up in my studio, Hugh (for it is he) has so many of them that I asked if he would be interested in coming along to Sharrow Vale Market so you too can find a crystalline friend to take home too. 
So that’s what’s happening my friends!

This Sunday the 10th December, from 11ish, there will be geodes and crystals galore to choose from- pointy ones, clusters, little egg sized ones, ones as big as you palm, amethysts, citrines, quartz types. Oh yes!

If you’re at the Christmas market come say hi and take home a high vibe gift 🙂

The wonderful Jane Midgley…

    Now, I know that Jane will blush like crazy when she finds out I’ve done this (Sshhhhh!) but I’d like to share some of the really lovely things said by folk that Jane works with…
“My words here really can’t do my treatment with Jane justice, I’m still processing all that happened. What I can say is if you have any physical, emotional or spiritual issue to work through then I cannot recommend Jane highly enough. I can’t wait to see her again, thank you Jane for such a beautiful healing experience”
“Amazing, words cannot describe how good! Totally in awe, what a wonderful experience” 
“The session with Jane was amazing. I would highly recommend myofascial release to anyone who needs to relieve muscle tension and locked up emotion from earlier life incidents. It is the most profound and enlightening experience I have encountered. Thank you Jane for your compassion and intuitive nature.”
Coming up soon will be the new all inclusive Thrive Clinic & Studio website with lots more of Jane- but I really wanted to share with you these lovely words, because it makes me so happy and I am so grateful that I work with this amazing Myofascial therapist.

I could spend all day waxing on about transformational her work is, but I’m sure that the words above say it better than I ever could. If you feel that working with Jane is right for you, please get in touch and we can arrange a get to know you chat.

Big hugs,

Cx

It’s Playtime! Get your wiggle on with Rebounding

Today I’m talking about a really, super easy technique that you can do before you go to sleep, or anytime you have space to lie on the floor and wiggle around. Rebounding is an ace MFR technique that helps you identify where your body glitches. Have a play and let me know in the comments where you get stuck and need to find your fascial freedom.